Kuala Lumpur. How are we really going?

Kuala Lumpur. How are we really going?

I mentioned in a FB post about how the last four days hasn’t been all “happy happy joy joy.”

What do I mean by that?

Before we left Australia, Gerhard and I would sit around and talk about what it would be like. “It will be so much fun” “the kids will learn so much” “we can’t wait to be a family and spend time together.”

But when things don’t go to plan and you have all these expectations, it can be quite the challenge.

This is how the trip started. A hit to the nuts...

This is how the trip started. A hit to the nuts…

Central Market, KL

Central Market, KL

Best breakfast!! Tea, Roti Canai and Hot Milo!!

Best breakfast!! Tea, Roti Canai and Hot Milo!!

Challenge 1: Accommodation

With an 8 year old boy who has Sensory Processing Disorder, the small room we had didn’t do any wonders for him. Firstly it had no window, just a room with two double beds and a toilet, which is fine but not for Mattaeus. We didn’t even think twice about how the small space would effect him. We have just come from a large four bedroom home with a rumpus room, massive backyard and three bathrooms. The kid loves to move and run and being in the middle of the city, you don’t know the difference between the road and footpath. The nearest open space for the kids to run was three train stops away.

Hostel in Johor. Not one of our favourite places to stay. Gerhard shoes got stolen, piss on toilet seats and inconsiderate assholes smoking in the room

Hostel in Johor. Not one of our favorite places to stay. Gerhard’s shoes got stolen, piss on toilet seats and inconsiderate assholes smoking in the room

Not a fan of authority..

Not a fan of authority..

 

3D art museum in KL

3D art museum in KL

Dinner with familia in Jalan Alor, KL xx

Dinner with familia in Jalan Alor, KL xx

 

Challenge 2: Unwanted Attention

With two super duper good looking kids (yes I can say that) it brings a lot of stares, whispering, pointing and the occasion cheek squeeze followed by “hello boy”. I spoke to a good friend about this and she said no matter what people are going to stare and there is nothing you can do. Westerner’s stick out like a sore thumb. Can’t do much about it.

Also my 16 year old buzz cut isn’t helping either. I think people are a little confused. Maybe they think Gerhard has three sons. At times I have felt uncomfortable and wanted to just hide for a bit but that achieves nothing. In Samoan culture (which is what Gerhard is) staring can mean a sign of confrontation so you can imagine walking a few hundred meters down the street. Good times.

Being in a country that is predominantly Muslim dress code is something to be aware of. We have had experience in Thailand and Cambodia and modesty was something to be aware of but nothing to be too concerned about. We want to be able to respect the country we are in and like they say “When in Rome, do as the Romans do.”

The boys with the waiter in Jalan Alor

The boys with the waiter in Jalan Alor

5hr bus ride in style from KL to Johor Bahru and cheap!!

5hr bus ride in style from KL to Johor Bahru and cheap!!

Pit stop. Markus always looking for food

Pit stop. Markus always looking for food

Pit stop selfie

Pit stop selfie

 

Challenge 3: Food

Gerhard: Eats everything and anything. Literally.

Mattaeus: Hates veges and chili. He’s a meat kinda kid.

Me: Eat anything, but with bowels that are clogged up I had to really watch what I eat

Markus: Would eat all bloody day if he could but he is anaphylaxis to eggs and nuts. It’s almost in everything they cook here.

So you can imagine what breakfast, lunch and dinner looks like. As parents we are ready to stab someone by the end of each meal, at times each other. The constant “excuse me is there egg or nuts in here” “yes yes taste good” “no, no egg or nuts. He die” “ooohhhhh. You still want?” and also reading every label.

Deliscoius desert made from rice flour, tapioca flour, palm sugar, coconut and pandan flavor steamed in bamboo and served hot

Delicious desert made from rice flour, tapioca flour, palm sugar, coconut and pandan flavor steamed in bamboo and served hot

Roti Tisu for breakfast. Basically a crunchy roti drizzled with melted butter, condensed milk and sprinkled with sugar. Not the healthiest but no one cares

Roti Tisu for breakfast. Basically a crunchy roti drizzled with melted butter, condensed milk and sprinkled with sugar. Not the healthiest but no one cares

 

Whole deep fried chicken anyone?

Whole deep fried chicken anyone?

 

What we do love is the amount of fresh fruit already cut up, fresh fruit juice, super cheap meals that taste better than any fancy shmancy restaurant and paying no more than $10aus for four people. If we see lots of locals eating there we were usually not far behind. You can learn a lot from food. You can observe how they interact, how they eat, how they communicate by sitting and watching. It was fun to watch workers grabbing breakfast before work.

Challenge 4: Anxiety

They say opposites attract. I have a big bloody mouth and  I am happy to talk to any Tom, Dick and Harry. Gerhard on the other hand not so much. He’s is an introvert and we need more introverts!. With a city so crowded, people staring, kids running off and a constant change of plans can takes its toll. The constant need to communicate under pressure in uncomfortable situations can be hard. The man’s stepped up his game haha. For some reason he is really good at speaking to people who don’t speak English. He is patient and avoids confrontation at all cost where as I struggle with it and talk to them like they are deaf. Its something we are working on 🙂

The kids would ask everyday "when are we going to Lego Land" I would say its a day they will remember for the rest of their lives. Bloody better it cost an arm and a leg haha

The kids would ask everyday “When are we going to Lego Land.” I would say its a day they will remember for the rest of their lives. Bloody better it cost an arm and a leg haha

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This kewl guy takes over the photo

This kewl guy takes over the photo

Markus first roller coaster

Markus first roller coaster ride

Legoland Waterpark. Before this photo things werent going too well. It was pouring rain, we had already paid for tickets, we double booked bus tickets and we hated our hostel haha BUT we thought fuck it lets just go. Glad we did.

Lego Land Water Park. Before this photo things weren’t going too well. It was pouring rain, we had already paid for tickets, we double booked bus tickets and we hated our hostel haha BUT we thought fuck it lets just go. Glad we did.

 

With that said this is what this whole trip about is really. Being uncomfortable. When we are uncomfortable there is a real opportunity for us to learn about each other, but most of all our selves. At no point did we think this was going to be a breeze but what has surprised us the most is how much we have learnt about each other. Being confined to a small space you have no choice but to learn to work with each other or else shit falls apart. Aint nobody got time for that!!

Without sounding like we have first world problems we wake up each morning grateful as hell to be where we are and also grateful we can share it with you.

Feel free to leave us a comment below we would love to hear from you 🙂

Much Love xx

 

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19 Comments

  • Your name

    I love reading about your adventures… I reckon you’re doing GREAT! Cheers and prayers from a fellow traveller in Asia 🙂

    February 24, 2016 at 1:50 AM
    • Frank Bird

      Oh this is me 🙂

      February 24, 2016 at 1:51 AM
    • Vanessa

      Sawasdeeka from Hua Hin!! We were suppose to come and see you but we have screwed up our visa haha hope your trip to NZ was good 🙂 Never know we might still cross paths x

      February 25, 2016 at 7:36 PM
  • Jen Martinez

    Haha I can imagine the stares at your head!
    Love the post! Especially the ‘nuts/eggs’, ‘yes tasti’, ‘he die’, ‘ooohh you still want?’ Classic Asia right thur!
    Craving pandan and condense milk now 🙋

    February 24, 2016 at 6:18 AM
    • Vanessa

      How funny is it when they genuinely understand that he cant eat it but they don’t care hahaha!!

      February 25, 2016 at 7:35 PM
  • Anna

    Love reading about your adventures, your life lessons and seeing the photos! Keep them coming! 🙂

    February 24, 2016 at 6:47 AM
    • Vanessa

      Furry Box xx

      February 25, 2016 at 7:34 PM
  • Lena

    You are amazing Ness! I enjoy reading ur posts. Very inspiring. Take care and be safe X

    February 24, 2016 at 11:28 AM
    • Vanessa

      Thanks Lena!! xx

      February 25, 2016 at 7:34 PM
  • Mark Barnard

    Vanessa, this is great! It’s good to see you still have a way with words!

    Cheers

    Mark B

    February 24, 2016 at 8:07 PM
    • Vanessa

      Not much has changed 🙂 Hope to catch up in NZ end of this year. I heard you are back in Auckland!! Love to the Whanau

      February 25, 2016 at 7:34 PM
  • Juanita

    Hi Guys! I love reading your posts so keep them coming when you get the time.
    Really inspiring what you guys are doing and it’s so awesome to hear how much you guys are learning about each other in the process of it all! Legoland looks amazeballs our boys will love to go to one ONE DAY! They’re following too 😉
    Sending our love and prayers xx

    February 24, 2016 at 9:02 PM
    • Vanessa

      Juanita!!! Def bring them here you will love it! I think around $30aus. Not really the best for adults but the kids will cut sick haha. Hi boys!!!!

      February 25, 2016 at 7:33 PM
  • Your name

    Loved reading it Vanessa🤗

    February 27, 2016 at 7:44 AM
    • Vanessa

      Thanks 🙂

      March 2, 2016 at 7:17 PM
  • Melissa malu

    Love it! What an awesome adventure ☺️

    March 9, 2016 at 11:26 PM
    • Vanessa

      Thanks Melissa 🙂

      March 10, 2016 at 12:06 AM
  • Joshua Hinders

    Unfortunately for the last 3 days we were in Malaysia, the weather was awful. The restaurant we were having dinner at one night actually got flooded! Still, we had a fabulous time exploring on our Vespa.

    March 14, 2016 at 3:56 PM
    • Vanessa

      Glad you had a great time! I hope we can go back again and do it a bit differently.

      March 19, 2016 at 12:19 AM

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